A Relationship Isn’t Going To Make Me Survive. It’s The Cherry On Top” – Jennifer Aniston
Ever since my move to New York, friends I’ve made here and friends from back home constantly grill me about my love life and the boys.. or men? I have met out here. Why don’t I have a boyfriend, who am I sleeping with etc etc…
Do I meet a lot of guys? Sure. Do I want to date any of them? Not right now.. This might sound utterly ridiculous for someone in their early twenties, when all you should be doing is dating and attempting to meet the man of your dreams. However, for me right now, I want to focus on what I want for my career. It is just too stressful to deal with the ups and downs and rejections of trying to find a stable entry-level job, without adding relationship drama to the mix.
I’m not trying to say that I wouldn’t want to date at all at this point in my life, but most men that show me interest are not exactly the Ken doll I pictured myself with, I don’t exactly look like the Barbie I pictured myself as right now either… So perhaps my decision to focus on other priorities does come from an insecurity about the way I look, however, more than anything, I don’t want to settle! I witness so many of my friends in relationships that just seem way too much like hard work considering we are young and relatively free of heavy obligations; none of us have kids or a mortgage we need to be paying off.
Relationship reality in New York certainly isn’t ‘Sex and The City’, no one is out with a different guy every night debating whether to sleep with them or not to sleep with them. Instead people are constantly wading through the huge pool of Manhattan neuroses in order to find equal footing which will help them commit to dating one person. Think less Carrie Bradshaw and more Woody Allen.